I’m calling it the summer of…


This has been a doozy of a summer for me!

I mentioned in my last post how I had a wonderful trip to Australia in early June. I wish I could have bottled that experience – having time to relax, explore, etc.

Of course, everything after that trip was pretty darn stressful. I had two graduate courses going, and they were no joke. As the weeks went by, somehow the work load for these classes began to just take over everything. It got to the point where I really didn’t want to go into work (for that paycheck) because I had a paper to write or I had to research something.

Each week became a mini crisis as the work piled up and I just ran out of hours in the day. I was staying up late to write, and feeling like hell when I woke up in the morning, as my mind churned over the to-do list endlessly. After a while I developed chronic heartburn! It didn’t matter what I ate or didn’t eat, heart burn wouldn’t leave me alone. I knew it was stress related, but I was too distracted to really deal with it.

Oh, and did I mention that I was frantically searching for an internship for the fall?! I’m working towards a masters degree, and it was time to do an internship. I must know a hundred people in my field, but all my contacts (who tried to help me) came up with crickets. I had visions of my resume being swept down a lonesome street chasing tumble weed. What was going on? I tried to remain calm, knowing that timing was everything, but I was nervous.

In the meantime I was chained to my computer and considering buying stock in Tums. It got to the point that I was so stressed out that I talked to my boss and said I might have to resign. I didn’t have enough time to get it all done, and I didn’t know what my schedule would look like in the fall, because I hadn’t found a bleeping internship yet. When I hit bottom and wanted to cry, something amazing happened.

I told my boss everything – about the classes, the internship search, my time crunch, and my worries about the future. To her credit, she told me that I could work from home and reduce my hours until the classes were finished. Then she asked if she could make some calls on my behalf to help get me an internship! I can’t tell you how much that helped relieve the pressure I was feeling.

Lesson one: talk to people when you need help, and then let them help you!

A few more weeks rolled by, and I was working on my classes like a machine. The one internship I applied to and interviewed for was not getting back to me, so I figured I was up a creek. One night, in desperation, I just googled the heck out of “graduate internship” and actually found one to apply to. I applied at 10 pm, and had a phone call from the school by noon the next day. So this is a reason to rejoice, right? I was so strung out that I had a hard time processing it all. What just happened?!

Lesson two: things “pop” in their own time (so don’t give up!)

I was immensely relieved to have a solid lead, and it did lead to an internship I’ll be starting soon, thank goodness.

I was finally getting somewhere, classes were in the home stretch, work was being flexible, and I had a plan for the fall. It should have been a cake walk at that point, right? Nope. It just so happened that my last two weeks of classes with finals and research papers fell exactly on my family summer beach weeks!

Great, I was finally getting a grip, and it was time to pack up for vacation. I knew there was no way I was going to finish my work surrounded by my extended family at the beach! I decided to stay home for a few days by myself and work like crazy. It wasn’t the end of the world, but there was pressure to get it all done so I didn’t leave my family high and dry. Thankfully my plan worked, and I didn’t miss too much.

By the time I arrived at the beach, I was a mental zombie. What day is it? Where am I supposed to be? Now, the beach has always been my happy place, so as soon I got there, I headed to the beach with my kids. That first day I spent a few hours playing “lifeguard” at the edge of the surf while my kids played in the water. At the end of the day I was shocked to find that I didn’t feel the heartburn anymore. Simply amazing!

Lesson three: go to your happy place (even just in your imagination)

I feel like the summer was about ten years long, and I am sure that the stress probably shortened my life a bit, but I lived to tell about it! Being under stress and needing to perform at my best led me right back to my healthy diet and forced me to get out there and walk to relieve the tension. Now I know going forward that it really helps, and it inspires me to keep it up as long as I can.

Lesson four: when under stress eat super healthy and get lots of exercise.

As you can see, none of these “lessons” is especially ground breaking, but when you are feeling stressed out, it’s easy to forget the basics.

Ask for help

Don’t give up

Go to your happy place

Take care of yourself

Let’s toast to the last days of summer, and hope for a peaceful fall that doesn’t require a Costco sized bottle of Tums!



No Opportunity Wasted


Did you ever feel like life was getting a little too boring? That it’s the same old thing day in and day out? And you feel like you need a change of scenery for a while, or a major life change?

A few years ago I read No Opportunity Wasted by Phil Keoghan, the host of the Amazing Race. I bought the book because I wanted more out of life. I wanted to do more things, travel, and have more meaningful experiences. And I’m not saying my life was bad, it certainly wasn’t, but my heart wanted more.

This book is a good no-nonsense look at the excuses we put in the way of taking those great trips or chasing those dreams. It also gives you food for thought about what you really want to do. Everyone’s version of that beloved thing on their bucket list is different, but it doesn’t make it more or less meaningful. As they say, the heart wants what the heart wants!

Just a little FYI, I think the author is an adrenaline junkie, as his most treasured experiences are very adventurous and off the beaten path. Don’t let that dissuade you. If you’ve ever dreamed of strolling around Paris just to eat really good bread for a week, and your heart lights up at the thought – it counts!

I’m bringing this all up because it relates to my recent trip to Australia. It all started with a meeting at church (if you can believe it!?) A friend told me she just started listening to a new podcast, the Lively Show, and was really enjoying it.

The following week I looked it up out of curiosity and started listening. Right from the beginning I found the podcast hopeful and uplifting. It also happens to be a bit woo-woo and talks a lot about mind over matter things like meditation, setting intentions, and listening to your intuition.

(I haven’t written about it for a while, but I am all about the intuition! It’s a language our bodies use to speak to us that is very useful. It’s the sixth sense when you realize a person makes you uncomfortable for no obvious reason. It’s the feeling of peace when you walk into a room with people who love you. It’s your body saying “yes” or “no” to something crossing your path.)

Anyhoo, I found that listening to these podcasts put me in a really good mood, and each one had at least one good take-away idea worth exploring. For example, setting intentions for the day = good, but meditating each day = maybe I’ll just take a few deep breathes each morning?

Months go by, I feel happier with these things in mind, and calmer, too, as if my positive vibes are doing their work. Eventually Jess Lively, the host, announces a live event to kick off a new set of classes she and her team put together. My brain says, of course it’s in Sydney (where Jess lives), and immediately takes a pass. I continue listening (I’m driving) to the description of the event… Jess says she is making 111 tickets available (she’s into numerology)…I glance over at the clock and it says 1:11 pm. My eyebrows rise and I keep driving. She starts talking about how you can visit Sydney and then also visit New Zealand since it’s so close.  My heart starts racing a little bit, since I went to NZ a few years ago and had the most magical week that I never wanted to leave…

I reach my destination around the time she finishes explaining the event, and my heart skips a beat and feels like it’s going to leap out of my chest. I’m hit with a sense of longing so strong that I burst into hysterical tears because I know I’ll never be able to go. It’s so far, it’s so expensive, and I have kids to take care of…more crying, and then I get myself together and go on with my day.

Later that night, I confess to my husband what happened. He looks at me like maybe I hit my head, but is going to be nice to me anyway. I tell him it makes no sense but I really really want to go on this trip. He says, yes, it’s a little crazy, but let’s talk about it. (Points for him!)

We talk about it on and off over the course of a few weeks. How will I pay for it? What’s needed for the kids? Why do I want to go so bad? We hash it out and re-consider and talk some more. I realize I have some money in savings, and he thinks he can take off to be with the girls. It goes on from there and he finally says, if you feel so strongly about it, you better go.

I tell him I feel like I will be among like-minded people at the event, that I need to escape my day to day for a little while, that I need to explore a bit. He says OK, but that spending a week alone flying internationally doesn’t sound fun to him.

I book the trip and don’t tell anyone but him. I feel sheepish telling people I’m flying to Australia just because. It’s not for work, or school, or a research project. I’m just taking off to go to an event on the other side of the globe because I want to. As the time gets nearer, I need to tell people I’m going, and I really dread the reactions. My parents look puzzled, but say, have fun. That was the worst of it. My co-workers are excited for me, as are my friends! They say things like, way to go, follow your heart, you’re an inspiration. (I can’t tell you how shocked I was to hear these reactions!)

So I get myself on the plane and spend 24+ hours traveling. Luckily I slept most of the long flight across the Pacific, so I feel OK when I land in Sydney. I spend the next four days meeting new friends, exploring Sydney, learning about the interplay of the conscious and subconscious mind, drinking pink lattes and eating lovely healthy Aussie cuisine. I meet a longtime online friend for the first time in person and have a wonderful evening. My last full day I take the bus to Bondi Beach and do the coastal walk. About a mile in I stop to eat in a beach side cafe after observing a rainbow form over the ocean. As I dig into the best avocado toast I’ve ever eaten, it hits me:

I’m eating lunch in a beach side cafe in Australia! I feel a sense of euphoria bubble up as I think over the past few days and how much I’ve enjoyed both being with people and having relaxing time to myself. I think, hey, it’s a miracle I’m sitting here right now!

All of the planning and the worry and the strange sense of longing to follow my heart was worth it. My heart was light in a way that doesn’t happen too often.

I’d like to say that I won a million dollars or made life changing connections while I was there. And, you know, those connections just might be a big deal in the long run, but only time will tell. I will never forget being among other people who thought way-out the way I do sometimes. I’ll never forget hearing other people say they also felt a little embarrassed about flying to Sydney just because it felt right. I’ll never forget how unexpected it was that so many people were rooting for me to go. And, as I look back on this trip and its emotional impact one me, I’ll never regret it one iota.

May YOU, too, follow your heart to its next destination!



Making the best of it


So they say several planets are in retrograde and that lots of things will go wrong…those not into astrology say “BS”. I like to think I can enjoy astrology without having it run my life. On this topic I’ll say, “something actually might be happening” because the past month and a half has been one of constant change and action.

I related a few weeks ago about my ongoing quest to find just the right foods to make my mind and body healthy. It has been complicated, but I’m getting the hang of it. Of course, stress makes me eat more chocolate, but overall, I’m hanging in.

So what else is shaking up my world these days?

I took an amazing trip to Australia to attend a live event with Jess Lively of The Lively Show. This was a big deal in my life for several reasons: I live in Philadelphia, which means it takes 24 hours at least to travel to Sydney; that kind of travel costs a lot of money and I’m not swimming in it; and I was going to leave my kids and husband for a week just because I wanted to.

I could write about this experience till the cows come home. It was intensely life affirming, wacky and wonderful. If you want more details, let me know. All I can say it that it was a big leap, and it was sooo worth it.

So then I came home from watching a rainbow form over the ocean to jet lag from hell, and found myself behind in all my usual stuff: my house looked like bomb had gone off, I was behind in my online graduate classes, and had stacks of things in my “to-do” box in the office. No wonder Americans don’t travel as much as, oh, anyone else in the world. There is always hell to pay when you get back.

It’s become clear that I have over-extended myself by trying to work part time, keep up with these classes that seem more demanding than usual (#$%!), and continue taking care of  myself and this household. There just isn’t enough time so I’m scrambling and it’s stressing me out.

I know it won’t last forever, and my best bet for surviving is sticking to a healthy diet and making time to relax. It’s easier said than done, but I know I’m going to make it.

On that note, I started reading a new book I thought would be inspiring. (You knew I was going to mention books, right?) Well I’m reading Let your life speak by Parker Palmer. He talks about his journey and learning to listen to his heart/ soul/ intuition (whatever you want to call it.) All I can say is that it relaxes me like no other. He’s made mistakes, unconventional career decisions, had people tell him he was crazy, and survived to tell about it quite happily.

It reminds me that whatever life throws at us, and even if we make mistakes, we can still come out the other side in one piece and wiser for the experience.

May we all survive the planets in retrograde and emerge from the experience richer than before!



Nobody said it would be easy


Happy mid June to you all!

We just experienced the new moon again, which reminded me to check in with last month’s intention, and set a new one going forward.

Well, last month was no barrel of laughs, food-wise, anyway. You may remember I decided to re-dedicate myself to my gluten and dairy free diet, as I’d previously fallen off/ torched the wagon. I joyfully climbed back on the wagon and resumed eating my go-to foods like eggs, oatmeal, almonds, salads, fruit, sweet potatoes, chicken, etc.

I thought, channeling Emeril Lagasse , let’s kick it up a notch and go REALLY healthy. I had my trusty food guides, but I wondered if there were any food sensitivities I was unaware of. I’d been eyeing the EverlyWell website for a while, and finally decided to spend the money to test my food sensitivities. It’s a bit pricey, but simple home blood test, and in less than a week, you get a custom report of foods that are a “yes” and those that are a “no” for your body. My impression was that the “no” foods were causing inflammation.

I thought I knew it all, after all, I had been experimenting with foods for a while now. Surely I knew what the results would be…right?

The good news is that no foods gave me a high reaction (yes) and only one food gave me a moderate reaction: brewer’s yeast. You may not be acquainted with brewer’s yeast, but if you drink alcohol, cook with vinegar or consume any fermented foods – it is acquainted with you!

I already knew that I could no longer drink alcohol without feeling awful, and frankly, vinegar regularly gave me heart burn, so this made total sense to me when I read the fine print. People have been pushing kombucha and apple cider vinegar for years as health foods, but I could never tolerate it, and now I knew why. (I’m cringing just thinking about the last time I tried to drink kombucha!)

So I was like, wow, this test is right on, this fits with my experience, yay to the yay. Then I continued reading. Turns out I’m mildly sensitive to eggs, sweet potato, chicken, broccoli, almonds, apples, oats, green beans, oranges, oregano, and baker’s yeast. Before I get to the yeast again – that list consists of things I eat all the time! I’m Italian for goodness sake, how could I have a reaction to oregano?! Thank goodness my grandma isn’t around to hear about that one.

And the yeast, well, that’s the worst part. The fine print says if you are sensitive to both kinds of yeast, as I am, that I likely have the dreaded candida overgrowth in my gut. Lovely.

I’ve just lost many of my staples, am facing a yeast issue, and then it gets even worse. It says I have no reaction to milk (dairy – what?) and gluten (#$%&!?). At this point I just look at the list with dismay – what the bleep does all this mean?!

All of a sudden, I have nothing figured out at all.

I finally realize that the gluten-yeast thing is related. I’ve been feeling great while I avoid gluten foods like bread (made with yeast) and baked goods (made with yeast and/or lots of sugar.) So while gluten on its own may not trigger any symptoms in my body, it’s hard to find foods that include gluten/wheat that don’t also include yeast and/or sugar. How’s that for a chemistry experiment?

OK, my brain starts to fire again, and I kind of get it. But now I have to figure out all different staples to eat on a regular basis. I know you’ll be relieved to know I can continue to eat kale, kelp and lima beans. Woo-hoo, party at my house!

I’m not sure how it happened, but I fell down another darn rabbit hole with food and have to recreate the wheel. I have my trusty list, so I know I’ll figure it all out eventually. It just feels like I’m starting over. Sigh.

Knowledge is power, but also, sometimes, a pain in the butt.

So, you know, send me your best lima bean recipes, please, there has got to be one out there!


Where are we?


Do you ever wonder how you got to a certain point in your life?

And wonder at a cross roads what might be next?

Last fall I wrote about my new journey with food, how I decided to eat healthier and give up gluten and dairy (mostly) and processed foods.  I saw huge improvements in my mood and general health – I lost weight, my cholesterol went down, and generally just felt so much better.

These are two guides I used: Eat Right 4 Your Type and The Wahls Protocol.

Both of these ways of eating seek to reduce inflammation in your system, which makes a huge difference in how your body functions.

So after months of success, even making it through the holidays unscathed, I fell off the wagon. Maybe it was more accurate to say I lit the wagon on fire? Because when I go rogue, I really do it fully!

The last month my eating has been all over the place, and surprise surprise, so has my mood. I’m snapping at my kids and sulking in the office and my face even broke out. (Let me tell you, to have your face break out at 41 is no joke!) But you know what the worst thing was? BRAIN FOG. From day to day I might be clear or I might be a medicine head, it really was not fun.

I don’t know about you, but I have too much to do to be a medicine head and scatter brain. It was also kind of scary because I had a hard time focusing and remembering what I was doing five minutes ago! Waaahhhhh!

I think the only good thing about my month of chaos is that I sought refuge in books. You know how I love to read! I read several fun books and several really useful books on health and life, etc. These put me back on track to rebuild the wagon and double up my seat belt so I won’t fall off again.

One of the things I learned is that our lives cycle with the moon. I’m not just talking about women here – men and women have a large amount of water in our bodies, and the moon pulls us like it pulls the ocean tides. The book I’m reading about this now is Lunar Abundance, and you may want to check out the book or the website.

Since today is a new moon, I’m setting my intention to eat healthy for the next few weeks. Sure, I want to visualize attracting money, but I can do that next month. For this series of weeks, I’m going to fine tune the diet and get myself clear and happy again. THEN I will be in a better place to conjure whatever else I want afterwards.

What would you find most useful to focus on for the next month?

There really is some freedom in picking a direction just for now, as long as it’s a good stepping stone for whatever comes next. You don’t have to have all the answers, you just take the next step and do your best.


Books I’ve been reading and recommend:


Braving the Wilderness

WomanCode (for the ladies)

Send me your recommendations, too!

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Yeah…what Thoreau said


“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.”

― Henry David Thoreau

How many times have we heard this advice?

Whenever I hear this phrase, my heart lights up with happiness and inspiration.  “Yes, I think, I want to do this!”  And then within about five minutes, I think to myself, “I don’t know what this means or how to do this.” Cue the frowny face, and I get back to whatever I was doing at the time.

I think I may have found some addition information that adds meaning to this wonderful inspiration within the context of the real world. What is it?

Why, it’s the Law of Attraction!

Stay with me here…most of us either read the book The Secret or saw the movie.  The simple premise is that you ask the universe for what you want, and it gets delivered to you.  Simple as that.

Of course, I’ve been coveting a Subaru for some time now, but it hasn’t shown up yet. Why? Because asking for what you want is only the beginning.  I recently came across more information about the Law of Attraction and why and how it can work.

Resources to explore below!

Here is the shortest possible explanation:

  1. First you have to imagine what you want – custom order and all.
  2. Then you have to ask why?  How will getting this thing make me feel?
  3. Then you have to focus on the feeling (as if you already got your prize).
  4. Then you keep it in your heart like a treasured souvenir, revisit it daily and expect it to really happen.

OK, I know right now you are thinking, yeah, wishful thinking, that will totally work.

Here’s the theory behind it: when you create that feeling as if you already found your heart’s desire, the energy you create goes out into the world. If you can regularly conjure up that good feeling, and you have confidence in getting it back, then matching energy will return to you.  It’s not too different from putting positive thoughts and works into the world, and hoping your good deeds will be returned. I think that is something many people can identify with.

Naturally, the things that light us up inside will correlate with our intuition.  So if you decide to try and manifest a speed boat, but you are just doing it for a party trick, it probably won’t work. (Sorry)! I think I haven’t gotten my Subaru yet because I’m pretty darn happy with my Jeep at the moment.

This process asks us to suspend our dis-beliefs and toss aside the reasons our brain tells us it ain’t gonna happen. Just five minutes a day, indulge your un-jaded inner child who still sees wonder and promise in the world, and believe it! I found it makes my day so much happier to focus on the positive.  Sure, crap still happens, but you don’t have to let it ruin your day, you can still find a silver lining most of the time.  I like to laugh at myself when things fall apart and think, OK time to start again.

As I read more sources and takes on the Law of Attraction, I can actually find evidence of it working in my own life.

Exhibit A: I am a down to earth kind of person who has a strong work ethic and values a sense of humor. It probably is not a fluke that I married someone who also shares those traits. Those traits are just who we are, so we can’t fake being posh and glamorous, and so our essential selves put out matching energies, and they found each other. Er…we found each other. 🙂

Exhibit B: My husband has a killer work schedule, and I spent years resenting how much I had to do with the kids and the house. One day he invested in a side project that would take even more time and money away from us, but it was his dream. I couldn’t fault him for chasing his dream, could I? So I decided not to be mad any more. Just. Like. That. This is the man I married and this was his dream, and I wasn’t going to knock it (it wasn’t crazy). What happened? I got more happy and flexible and supportive and he responded with appreciation and happiness. Years of tension pretty much gone in a flash – not too shabby, hmmm?

Now let me take you full circle back to Thoreau. When I looked up the phrase, I didn’t know who said it, and I had never heard the full thing.  Here’s what Thoreau actually said:

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.”

What the what?! Here I had been reading and contemplating the universe and energy and this phrase popped into my head and when I look it up it references the laws of the universe?! I thought my head was going to explode. Wow!

You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one

John Lennon pretty much sums it up for me today.

Happy reading and dreaming…

The Law of Attraction just a warning, this is very woo-woo.

Jess Lively I have fallen down the rabbit hole with her podcasts. She does a nice job of explaining the science of emotions and energy.

Reality Transurfing A slightly different take on the Law of Attraction. The author has a strong science background.

The Secret the book that brought this idea to our attention.





Excuse me, do I smell?


Have you ever caught a whiff of yourself and instantly wondered,” Do I stink?”

I feel like most of us have waged the battle with body odor pretty much since puberty.  We can obsessively shower and use deodorant and antiperspirant and still not smell like a rose.  It can be down right frustrating!

I wanted to write about this, because I’ve been on a mission to get healthier, which led me to start using natural deodorants that are free of aluminum, etc.  But can they really work?

A few things I’ve figured out…

Everyone’s body chemistry is different, so if you use perfume, cologne or scented deodorant, you need to find a smell that matches your natural smell.  Ever notice that your best friend’s perfume smells great on her, but makes you stink?  That’s individual body chemistry for you! I love the scent of lemongrass and fresh citrus, but if I put it on my body, I smell like someone sprayed me with air freshener (boo!) I seem to be able to work with warmer scents like vanilla, cinnamon and ginger.  It takes some trial and error to figure out what works, so give it time. Unscented deodorant is always a good option!

What you eat matters. I think most people have noticed that after a spicy meal with garlic or curry, that they kind of smell like that spice.  It really does matter what you eat, because the by products of your food may be excreted as sweat.  My personal revelation? The less dairy I eat, the better I smell.  And, yes, I do miss cheese and ice cream!  Generally, I also think the less chemicals and preservatives we eat the better, which leads to my next point…

Chemicals! I’m going to link to an article below which talks about a number of factors, including chemicals in medication, deodorants and antiperspirants. While I was testing different natural products, I would alternate with traditional antiperspirant.  Over time, I was surprised to find that I actually smelled worse at the end of the day when I used the chemical based products. Not lying, and I was baffled!  I guess artificial = bad when it comes to smell.

Clean yourself better. I have probably used hundreds of products over the years from shampoo and conditioners to soaps and body washes.  Let’s face it, some just work better than others, and I’m sure it varies from person to person.  (Did you ever notice you still kind of smelled after a shower? So annoying!) I recently stumbled upon detox soap.  I think you can buy detox deodorant, too.  They have been using charcoal and activated charcoal in clay face masks for year, and now they put charcoal into pretty much any product you can think of.

I started using a charcoal soap and have been very happy with the results.  I have used it from head to toe, and it has thoroughly cleaned my skin without stripping the natural oils.  My pits smell totally fresh and clean after each wash, no matter how dirty I was before. This is the kind I’m using right now.

See the difference between regular vs. activated charcoal here.

It’s your clothes, too. Are you wearing too many synthetic fabrics?  I find that if I’m not wearing a cotton blend, then my skin isn’t “breathing” enough, and I start sweating buckets.  This, of course, is a problem, since many cute new clothes are made of rayon and similar fake fabrics.  When I need to wear a fancy dress or something that doesn’t come in cotton, I use my natural deodorant to keep down the smell, and I regularly blot the sweat with tissues in the bathroom.  It’s not ideal, but that approach works better than layering on more commercial deodorant.  I’m jealous of people who can wear any fabric without breaking a sweat!

Last, but not least, I have found a natural deodorant that works for me.  There is definitely a transition phase from commercial deodorant to natural deodorant, so give it a week or so for your body to adjust.  And remember the difference between a deodorant, something that keeps the smell away, and an antiperspirant, something that stops you from sweating.  I know it can be super annoying, but our bodies need to sweat in order to moderate temperature and excrete waste, so it’s not a great idea to blunt the sweat glands.

I have used a few kinds of Tom’s of Maine natural deodorant, as well as a product called Primal Pit Paste.  Both of these were OK, but they didn’t work as well as Native. I tried this on a whim and was shocked at how well it worked.  I started with the unscented and am starting to try some of their other scents.  I just can’t believe how well the unscented native deodorant works.  End of story, it just works magic in my opinion!

To wrap up this smelly subject, check out the shape article here. My apologies to any guys reading this, because it’s aimed at women, but the general points are universal.

May you have a healthy and sweet smelling day!