I’ve been thinking a lot lately about life coaching…I’m done my training and ready to coach! My next step is to find clients, and clearly communicate what my coaching style is all about. Well, let me tell you, my focus is helping clients find their inner voice or instinct and follow it in order to live their best life.
Sounds great, but how do we find that inner voice? Where is that instinct hidden? Have you ever heard someone refer to “following their gut” when making a difficult decision? It literally means listening to their body’s reaction to a situation. For example, a landlord once told me that he rented his house to two women who gave him a good “vibe”, despite their questionable credit score. He was willing to give them a chance because they made him feel calm. His analytical brain said they were a credit risk, but his body (muscles, breathing, heart rate) felt comfortable with them, so he “followed his gut”. Guess what? The whole situation worked out beautifully, and I can’t say I’m surprised.
While our brains are busy listening to language and drawing all sorts of conclusions, our bodies are picking up on more subtle communications. Did you ever speak to someone whose body language didn’t match their words? If you noticed that discrepancy, you probably wondered why the exchange seemed off in some way. Maybe it gave you a little red flag that the person wasn’t being honest. That may have been a fleeting thought that was dismissed, but on some level you still noticed it.
I think we all need to listen to our bodies a lot more, as they give us some extra clues about navigating our surroundings. Do situations make us feel at ease with relaxed muscles, calm breathing and a sense of safety? Or do we feel on guard with tense muscles, hyper awareness and a knot in the stomach? Believe me, it means something!
I’d urge everyone to take some time and notice the non-verbal messages their body may be sending. Frankly, it’s like having a sixth sense, and we could all use that!
Not sure how to “listen” to yourself this way? More on that next time…