That symbol you see there is the Greek Delta, often used in mathematical expressions to symbolize change.
Evidently, the idea “change is the only constant” was first introduced by Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher. (Who knew?)
So I wanted to announce that I’m closing my coaching business.
I have loved coaching and through it, I’ve met many awesome people. However, I’m being pulled in other directions for now.
That being said, I will be continuing to blog, and I’m available for any burning questions you may have via email!
Yes, change, what do we know about it? Most people dislike change because we seem to be creatures of habit. (I know I am.) When there is no schedule, or the schedule keeps changing, it kind of stresses me out. What day is it and where am I supposed to be?!
I cope by obsessively putting everything in my calendar and assume that soon the rhythm will return so that I don’t feel so adrift. Often, the schedule does settle down into a normal pattern and stays that way for a month or a season, but change will inevitably creep in again.
I used to really fear change, but now I’m starting to make peace with it. Navigating change can be a challenge, but in those challenges we grow, learn new things, and meet new people. It’s not easy, and it can be upsetting, but I realized that if we don’t keep growing, changing, and evolving we’re gonna die. Plain and simple, we have to keep going with the flow so we don’t shrivel up and get mistakenly placed in a time capsule!
A side benefit for me, dealing with change, is that as time rolls along, I know myself better. That, in turn, makes it easier to figure out what to do in times of upheaval. There are simply options that are possible, and ones that aren’t. Will I have to move? Change jobs or go back to school? Those things are fine with me. Will I let myself be distanced from my family? No way, no how. We’re a package deal, and whatever is happening, we are all in it together.
Think back to some really big changes that have occurred in your life. Did you sink or swim? Did you follow your instincts to help make decisions? Did something good or meaningful come from an unexpected event?
The biggest thing I can think of is having children! It was a ROUGH transition for me, and for a while I was drowning. I mean, it was really ugly. One day, when my daughter was about 4 months old, a light bulb moment occurred. I said to myself, “I hate my life!” Saying those words out loud shocked me so much that I knew I had to get help. Depression and anxiety were ruining my life and depriving me of enjoying my perfectly pleasant baby, not to mention my marriage. Talk about a disaster.
That day started me down a path to get better. It took a long time, I tried talk therapy, medications, acupuncture, and just eating pounds of dark chocolate! It took about two years, but I eventually felt like myself again. When I looked back, I saw that these problems had been hanging over my head much longer than I’d realized. It just took the shock and awe of becoming a parent to send me over the edge.
What I’m trying to say, is that something wonderful came out of this terrible experience. I hit bottom and began to search for answers, and though it was slow going, I was able to find myself again and become so much happier for the journey.
I sincerely hope that you never hit bottom, and that moving a house full of IKEA furniture is the toughest thing that comes your way. I just want you to know that it’s possible to navigate crazy change and come out stronger on the other side. So who coined the phrase, “life is never boring?” That should be the corollary to change is the only constant!
Wishing you fair weather and calm seas!